Introduction

Dear Birthmother,

We want to start off by saying that we are thankful you are reading this letter and taking the time to get to know us better. We cannot even imagine what a difficult decision this must be for you. We recognize it is a selfless act that takes a lot of inner strength. While our hearts beat fast every time we think about being blessed with a child, we are mindful of the sacrifice you will be undertaking. We are open to the opportunity to speak with you by phone or meet with you in person.  It is our hope and dream to be mothers. We have always felt very passionate about adoption, and know in our hearts that this is the right way for us to start our family. We have had the privilege of witnessing adoptions both in our family and with friends. We have so much love to share with the child we hope to adopt. If you choose us, we promise you that your child will always know where they came from and that their adoption plan was created out of love. We gladly embrace the opportunity to keep you updated with letters and pictures if you wish. By the end of this letter, it is our hope that you will have a glimpse of our strong relationship, our commitment to creating a family, and our hope to be parents some day soon. We have many dreams for the child we look forward to adopting. We want him/her to know the beauty of unconditional love and acceptance, faith and spirituality, family and friends, and a good education.  We value the importance of a child knowing their personal heritage and cultural background, and incorporating this in our everyday lives. Education is also something we value strongly.

Our Values

We will encourage and support our child in their educational journey.  We have money in a college fund for their future.  Religion is also important to us.  We look forward to sharing warm times with family and friends in church. Our plan is to have family and friends be a central part of our child’s life. We will enjoy holidays, birthdays, barbeques, and other fun gatherings together. We can’t wait to take many family vacations and day trips with our child.  I (Margie) am looking forward to playing sports, attending sports activities, and coaching them on their teams.  I look forward to Christmas when my father will dress up like Santa Claus, as he does every year.  I (Beth) look forward to being an active parent in their classroom activities.  I am excited to do arts and crafts, gardening, swimming, and many other enriching activities with our child.  We are fortunate that Beth will be at home with the child during the day and will work part time.  I (Margie) will be able to be with the child when Beth is at work. My mother will likely take care of the child, in our home, for approximately 10 hours per week to assist us when our time at work overlaps. We are lucky that both of our jobs allow for flexibility. We are both blessed with jobs that allow us to work with children.  I (Margie) am a therapist on an inpatient hospital unit for children.  I (Beth) provide child-care for a child with special needs.

Our Relationship

Our love and commitment to one another began ten years ago in college.  It was rooted in a strong friendship, which was based on trust, loyalty, and mutual respect.  During the next several years, we had many enriching experiences together, including trips/vacations to various parts of our country and the world.  Some of our fondest memories are from a time we spent together in Mexico on a project through our college.  We worked with children in local schools and helped paint/clean a community store.   While in college, we spent several summers living and working on Block Island together in a grocery store. It was during these early years of our relationship that a strong foundation was created that would be built upon in the coming years.  After college, we both moved on to graduate school to pursue our Master’s Degree in Social Work.  It was after graduate school that our commitment to spending our life together grew stronger.   It was during this time that we began to seriously discuss our future life together and our desire to one day start a family through adoption.

After seven years together, we went back to Block Island and made a commitment to spend our life together.  One year later, on a warm fall day, we had our Commitment Ceremony with ninety of our closest friends and family.  We had a church ceremony with a wonderful celebration that followed.  It was a powerful experience in which we were able to express our love and lifelong commitment to one another in the company of the people who were most special to us.  We also felt fortunate that we had our brothers to stand up for us, and our parents to bless our life together.

Our bond and love is special. We value the importance of honesty and good communication. This allows the foundation of our relationship to remain strong. We love to laugh, snuggle, or just share the events of our day. This keeps our relationship fresh and alive.

Beth on Margie

There are many things I (Beth) love and respect about Margie.  First and foremost, I love her humor. She has the ability to make you laugh and feel at home in any situation.  She has a spirit that is contagious, especially to children.  When I am with Margie, I feel like I am the most important person in the world.  Margie has a wonderful ability to always see the good in people.  She is always authentic, not only with herself but with others.  She has a strong desire and passion to “right” the injustices of the world.  I know that Margie will be an amazing mother.  Her gentleness and ability to love unconditionally will make her an excellent parent.  She also understands the importance of consistency in setting limits.  I have had the joy of watching Margie take an active role in our niece and nephews’ lives since I first met her.   She has attended many of their sporting and educational events, cared for them on weekends, and made many special memories with them while on family vacations.   It is clear to me how fond they are of her. I see the respect they have for her as a positive role model in their lives.

Margie on Beth

There are many qualities about Beth that I (Margie) admire that attract me to her.  She is my biggest supporter.  She is one of the most compassionate, nurturing, and maternal people I know.  She is not a pushover, though; she stands up for what she believes in even if  it goes against the popular view.  Beth has a natural gift with children, especially with children who have special needs.  When Beth is in the room, children are drawn to her.   She has a very special relationship with her godson and his sister.  Every time she spends time with them, they make special “homemade” gifts for her.  She is able to be nurturing while at the same time setting appropriate limits.  I cannot wait to parent our child with Beth.

Our Home

Our home is one that is always open to friends and family and we have enjoyed many wonderful gatherings there.  It is warm, cozy, and well lit by the large windows and French doors that let the sunshine in.  Our property overlooks conservation land and there are large areas to play, walk, and garden outside.  We live in a charming, quaint, historic suburb of Boston. Our town has one of the leading school districts in the state of Massachusetts.  We have the benefit of many community activities for families and children. They include parks, libraries, local museums, ponds, hiking trails, camps, swimming pools, ski areas, and sports activities.  We often go into the city and enjoy the diverse activities that Boston has to offer.

Our Families

One of the best things about the location we live in is that it is close to Margie’s family with whom we spend a lot of time.  I (Margie) have two older brothers who are both married.  Beth and I are very fortunate to have wonderful relationships with both of our sisters–in–law as well as with my brothers.  My oldest brother has three children who Beth and I are very close with.  Growing up my mother stayed home with my brothers and I until we were all in school.  My father worked in our school system in special education and later as a school counselor.  I was lucky to be able to spend a lot of time with my grandparents throughout my childhood, which positively impacted my life. I spent my afternoons after school at my grandparents’ home when my mother went back to work.  My memories of their home include the sweet smell of warm apple pie and freshly baked banana bread…sick days from school…the charming sound of organ music…afternoon snacks while playing cards…learning to tell time and tie shoes…the hugs, the kisses, the smiles…conversations about family, values, and life…and a sense of always being welcome and always belonging.

My (Beth’s) mother and brother live in New York City and we see them often when they visit our home or on trips we take to New York.  My father passed away when I was in college. Growing up my mother was a full time stay at home mom.  My father worked his way up from a bank-teller to a major management position. He taught me the value of perseverance, hard work, and making long-term financial plans for the family. Throughout my childhood I enjoyed many weekend trips to visit extended family and friends. I have many special memories of  spending time on the farm my grandparents owned when I was a child.  We have strong connections to our families and they will be a large part of our child’s life, as we feel this is very important.  We are fortunate to have a warm extended family which includes our three brothers and Margie’s father who will be actively involved in our child’s life.  Our family is very excited to welcome its newest member and is extremely supportive of our adoption process.

We hope you have a better understanding of who we are and the love we want to offer your child.  We would welcome the opportunity to speak with you or meet with you.   We look forward to hearing what your hopes and dreams are for your child.  We want you to feel confident that this is the right decision.  We promise you that your child will always know where they came from and that their adoption plan was created out of love. We gladly embrace the opportunity to keep you updated with letters and pictures if you wish. We promise you that your child will know unconditional love and will have a happy, healthy life with us. We appreciate you considering us as prospective parents and we wish you peace in your journey.  If you would like to speak with us or learn more about us please call Full Circle Adoptions at 1-888-452-3678.

Thank you for your time,

Beth & Margie