Introduction
Dear Birthmother,
I know that we do not yet know each other, but I have a high regard for you and the decision that you have made to consider an adoption plan for your baby. Though this decision is not an easy one, I know you will make the right choice for you and your baby. I want to thank you in advance for taking the time to read this letter.
About Me
I have put a great deal of thought into my decision to become a single parent. I come from a loving, caring, supporting family and they know that I have always wanted to be a mother. I have a secure position with a major biotechnology firm in Boston and this position affords me the option to flex my time and schedule my work independently so that I can focus on my child’s needs first. This decision is the right one for me, and for the child I will come to know and love. I am looking forward to watching his or her expressions for the first time when he or she is learning to walk, talk, run, and play. I am also looking forward to him or her playing with their cousins and becoming very close to my large and loving family.
Your child will know the love of family and close friends. He or she will be surrounded by cousins and loving grandparents and will be loved and treasured by all. My family is very excited about welcoming a new baby into our family. My family has always supported me in my decision to adopt. They are all anxiously awaiting for me to become a mother. I have their support, and I know that they will always be there for me and the baby.
My Family
I have always loved children and being around children. My family and friends know that I am a caring and loving person, as well as knowing how much I adore children. Being around my brother and sisters’ families and observing how their children have matured into young adults, has showed me further how important family is. My brother Joe and his wife Nancy have three boys, Dom (17), Greg (14) and Zack (12). I enjoyed babysitting them when they were younger. My sister Lisa and her husband Michael have one boy Nicholas (5). My sister Marybeth and her husband Peter have three children Summer (4 ½), Olivia (1) and Cody (1) (twins). My sister has had her hands full since the twins were born. I stayed with her when the twins came home to help her with the feedings, and trying to put them on a schedule. It was a great learning experience. I enjoyed helping my sister and her family when the twins came home. Olivia and Cody just turned one, and they are walking and trying to say “momma” and “dada.” I had a wonderful opportunity to help my sister with her twins when they were younger, and still continue to do so when she needs me. I baby sit for my nephew Nicholas on occasion, and when we get together we are always playing games or he is showing me his newest karate move. My niece Summer likes makeup, and when I come to visit she likes to make my face up. I cherish this time with her. She does a great job too! I treasure every minute I spend with Nick, Summer, Olivia and Cody, as I know how fast they grow.
I can’t tell you how much joy I feel when I see all the children playing at my parents’ house. I have always wanted a family of my own. I can’t imagine not having the opportunity to be a mom and share my love with children everyday. I see how quickly my nieces and nephews are growing up, and it only confirms that I am making the right decision to become a parent. I know the joys that a child can bring into your life. I know the rewards of parenting. I have seen this first hand by observing my brother and sisters raising their children, and seeing the joy that brings to them. I have so much love to offer your child. I am willing to do whatever it takes to make sure your child has the best upbringing, and the most secure future possible. I can guarantee you that your child will be loved by many aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins, and hopefully later on, another sibling.
My Career
I am very fortunate to have a job that understands the importance of family, and that family comes before work. I am a senior paralegal in the Intellectual Property field preparing patent applications for a biotech company. I have been in this line of work for 15 years, and really enjoy my job. The nature of my job enables me to know my work assignments way in advance of their due date, and what types of projects I will be responsible for. This will enable me to be flexible in my schedule to focus to my child’s daily needs.
My Childhood
I was born in Massachusetts and grew up in a very warm, loving, traditional family. My parents both worked so they could provide for their family and give us the opportunities that they did not have themselves growing up. I know that I can do anything because I have the love and support of my family always. Your child will know that he or she is loved and cared for. Growing up I remember a lot of family functions that we went to, barbeques, vacations which included my family, as well as my Aunts and Uncles and their families. I was always surrounded by my family growing up. I knew that I could always go to my parents and that they would listen to me. I would love the opportunity to raise a child, and to give that child the love and nurture that he or she needs.
I will also teach my child the values of being a part of a family who is so caring, and giving of themselves. I would teach your child the values that I learned when I was growing up. The important holidays for me and my family are Thanksgiving and Christmas. This taught me the importance of a loving family being a gift that is unconditional. We did not have a lot growing up so what we did receive was always appreciated. I would teach your child to respect other people and their feelings, to always be honest and open-minded. To dream and achieve whatever they want in life. Anything is possible as long as you believe in yourself. There will be choices to make in life and that they will not be easy choices sometimes, but I will always be there to listen and advise to help make that choice easier. This is what my family has done for me. I could always turn to my family. Since I have an older brother and two younger sisters, we all learned how to share what we had and this taught me how to be a giving person. I would teach your child that love and support are the two most important things you can offer someone and to always respect yourself and what you believe in. Education is very important to me. I have already started a college fund so that the child I’m blessed to parent feels confident about pursuing their talent and dreams.
My Home
I live in a two-family home in a family neighborhood; the child I’m blessed to parent will have lots of friends nearby to play with. I live close to Boston where there are a lot of museums and cultural events. My two younger sisters live near by, and I know that we will be spending a lot more time together when the baby arrives. I anxiously look forward to seeing my child play with his or her cousins, and all the fun that they will have together growing up. I am ready to be a parent, and love and care for a child.
My Parents
When I was growing up my father taught all of us how to ice skate, which I still enjoy doing and would love to have the opportunity to share this with my child. My father also taught us how to swim when we were five years old. I have loved the ocean and the lakes ever since I was a child. I would love to do these things with my child as my father did with us when we were young. It gave us wonderful memories. I would like to teach my child about the nature and enjoying the outdoors and the change of seasons. How fortunate we are to live in New England because it has so many different things to offer in each season. I enjoy spending time during the summer at my sister Marybeth and her husband Peters’ home in New Hampshire. They have a very large place and my cousin Lynne and her family meet us up there during the summer months. We spend a lot of time enjoying the water and watching the children play. During the winter months we all go to New Hampshire and take the children sledding and when they are a little bit older, I hopefully will be teaching them how to ice skate. I enjoy taking nature hikes and being outdoors. I like going to Vermont and taking in the scenery and would love the opportunity to show your child all the beautiful sites and how different places can be. My friends are just as eager for me becoming a mother as my family is. I have their support and love and know that they will be there for me when I need them
I would be so honored to mother your child and will give him or her everything possible to ensure he or she is a happy, healthy and caring individual. I am dedicated to teaching a child to be respectful of others, and enjoy all the gifts that life has to offer. I know that children need to be prepared for life, and I will give your child the knowledge and wisdom he or she needs to live a wonderful and happy life. I would cherish every day of being a parent. I am eager to assume the responsibilities of parenthood, and to provide your child with the very best of everything.
As your child grows older, I will tell him or her just how special a person you are and that you made the hardest and most loving decision a parent can make, you put your child’s needs first. I want to tell your child of your love for him or her, and let the child know how special you are as the birthmother, and how lucky I am to be given the opportunity to be the child’s adoptive parent. With your permission, I would also look forward to updating you regularly through photos and letters. I would want to know what would help you feel reassured over the years that you made a good decision and comforted that your child is doing wonderfully.
In Conclusion…
I hope that you have the support that you need during this time, and I would like to know if there is any way I can be helpful and supportive of you in the days ahead. If you decide that I am the right person to raise your child, please know that I will give your child everything humanly possible, and that he or she will live a happy and fulfilling life.
Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. I would welcome a chance to meet with you. If you would like to learn more about me or speak to me directly, please call Full Circle Adoptions at 1-800-452-3678.
No matter what you decide, I wish you all the best.
Sincerely,