Dear Expectant Parent(s),
Hello, we are Tony and Krista. We have been happily married since 2011. We live in a beautiful area of western Massachusetts. Thank you so much for taking the time to get to know us. We don’t pretend to understand what you are going through right now, but we hope you have the love and support to help guide you.
We were both raised by loving, supportive parents and have always wanted to raise children together. Growing our family through adoption was a natural decision shortly after we learned that having biological children would be difficult. Krista was adopted when she was a baby and knows firsthand about the love and joy adoption brings to a family. We want to share with you a little bit about ourselves and what your child’s life would be like if you chose us as adoptive parents.
We first met in medical school while studying together in the library. We soon became more than “study buddies” and grew to be close friends. As we spent more time together, grabbing coffee, eating crab legs, going to hockey games, and hiking, we realized we weren’t just best friends; we were also soul mates.
We married in a charming, country church in Krista’s hometown. After the ceremony, we took part in a German wedding tradition – sawing through a log together, with our friends and family cheering us on. This tradition represents the first obstacle that newlyweds must overcome as a team in a lifetime of partnership.
Since our wedding day, our marriage has become stronger and we have been on many adventures together. We finished our education, started our careers, bought and renovated our first home, and traveled. We have sung karaoke in Tokyo, driven across western Europe, walked along the Normandy beaches in France, celebrated with German friends at Oktoberfest, and eaten homemade pasta and seafood in sleepy Italian villages.
We love to go camping in southern Vermont and take any chance we get to eat lobster in Maine! We enjoy riding the train into New York City to take in a Broadway show and check out new restaurants. We spend as much time as we can with Baxter and Goose, our chocolate Labrador retrievers.
We are both doctors in a busy emergency department. Our focus is pediatrics, so we are very used to taking care of children! We plan to continue working once we are parents. Although we really enjoy taking care of patients and find our work fulfilling, we also value our time outside of the hospital and chose our positions (and hospital) to establish a work-life balance, be part of our larger community, and build a family.
We work about three eight-hour shifts per week and prioritize time for each other, our families, and our dogs and cats. After a child arrives, Krista will have three months of maternity leave, and Tony will be taking several weeks off as well. Our work family has been very excited about our adoption plan and has offered lots of support.
One of the things I admire most about Tony is his kindness. He does everything he can to make those around him feel special. When it’s been a tough shift at work, Tony is the guy who picks up the phone and orders pizza for the whole department. Tony is smart and has an easy-going disposition. People are drawn to Tony’s smile and outgoing personality. He has a genuine interest in everyone he meets. His sense of adventure is always percolating. Whether it’s a last-minute camping trip with the dogs, watching a football game, making new friends in a foreign country, or relaxing on a quiet evening around the fire, Tony treats every day like a new adventure.
Tony can easily and thoughtfully discuss topics ranging from hockey, politics, and history, classic 1960s cars, fly fishing, anything having to do with Walt Disney World, and just about everything in between! Tony is fun-loving and silly, like when he wrestles with our dogs in the yard or races to get in line for just one last ride on Pirates of the Caribbean, his favorite attraction at Disney World.
I admire Tony’s humility. He never wants to be in the spotlight, but he is confident with who he is and what he believes. Tony is a warm, loving, and supportive husband. I know Tony is going to be an excellent father.
I am often asked at work, “How do you work with your wife?” I am constantly told by colleagues that they could not handle working with their significant others. I always have the same response, “It’s easy.” You see, Krista is not just my wife, she is my best friend.
Krista is a cute, smart, funny woman with a wonderful smile. I love her more today than the day we got married. Over the years, I have seen Krista act with compassion and empathy, quietly standing up for those who cannot advocate for themselves. She has never sought the spotlight, but instead, she focuses on doing a great job and helping those around her. Krista is fun-loving and spontaneous. Although she may be slightly afraid of picking a lobster from a shell, she has no qualms slurping down raw oysters. She can deftly navigate speaking German, her second language, at a medical conference in Bavaria, and then spend a week tent camping with me and our dogs in the Maine woods.
Krista goes out of her way to make everyone feel welcomed and special. Her friends and family come to her for guidance, and she always lends a sympathetic ear coupled with sound advice. She is protective of her family and friends. Krista has all the qualities that I know will make her a wonderful mother.
After finishing our medical training, we decided to put down roots in western Massachusetts. We knew we wanted a forever home that would allow us to enjoy all the area has to offer – camping, hiking, easy access to big cities and countryside, a family atmosphere, and great neighbors. A long search led us to a quaint New England cottage on a big lot in a small, walkable part of town. The former family lived in the home for over 70 years! The next-door neighbors, still here today, grew up playing in the back yard and woods, which are part of the property. The house was not in the best shape when we bought it, but we saw potential! We lived in a camper for several months while the house was renovated. In the end, we moved into a cozy, family home with a fenced yard where the dogs can play, kind-hearted neighbors, and a firepit for roasting marshmallows and telling stories after dark.
Our two favorite spots near our home are a sprawling park where there are two playgrounds and a kid-size train for the little ones. There’s also a nature reserve with a lake where we go fishing in the summer and ice skating in the winter. Our community is family-friendly and diverse.
We will love and support your child unconditionally. We will guide them as they learn about the world and help them pursue their interests and passions. We will make sure they laugh and smile every day and raise your child to be confident, caring, and give them the tools they need to live a happy and healthy life. We will teach your child to be kind and generous, recognize the blessings in their lives, and show empathy toward others.
Your child will be part of a large and loving extended family and supportive community. We’ll tell your child how much you love them and what a selfless and brave decision it was for you to make an adoption plan. We’re ready to share as much, or as little, personal information about you with your child.
We’re truly grateful you took the time to read our profile and consider us as adoptive parents. Please know we are thinking about you and sending you support to help guide you through this decision.
Wishing you all the very best,