Mike & Dale
We are Mike and Dale. We want to tell you how much we admire your courage. This must be a very difficult time for you. We hope you know that even by reading letters like this one, you have the capacity to bring amazing joy to another family. We want so much to be parents yet we are unable to conceive a child -despite three years of infertility treatment. Thank goodness adoption offers us another way to create the family we long to have.
We eagerly await a child to love and care for. Even during our engagement, when we talked about how important having a family was, we discussed the possibility of adopting. Our hearts are overflowing with love to give a child. Our child will be snuggled, cuddled and nurtured. We dream of the experiences we will share with our child. We look forward to teaching him or her how to ride a bike, swim and play ball, read and draw pictures. We just want to enjoy the world with him or her. We hope that by sharing some of who we are, you may feel confident that your child will feel safe and loved all of his or her life.
We met six years ago when a mutual friend fixed us up on a blind date. We'd already had time in our lives to sort out what was important to each of us in a loving relationship. It wasn't long before we realized that we had each found "the one" we wanted to share our life with. We were engaged within 6 months; our relationship has been a very easy and comfortable one from the beginning. It is built on tremendous love and respect for each other. By our third date, we were having long conversations about what mattered most to us - having successful careers or having a successful and fulfilling family life. There was no disagreement that having a strong family life was the most important thing to both of us.
Both of our families have enjoyed long and happy marriages. We knew this was important to us as well. When we met, it felt like we'd known each other forever. It was a lot of fun to have finally found someone who shared the same interests and the same goals. We were amazed at how similar our upbringings were considering we grew up at opposite ends of the country.
Both of our families value hard work and education. Each of us was responsible for paying part of our educational costs; something we feel made us appreciate it that much more. We have both worked very hard to get to this point in our lives and have had a lot of support and encouragement from our families along the way.
We both love to cook. A lot of our time dating was spent cooking gourmet dinners together. We also love to travel and have been fortunate enough to take trips to many beautiful parts of the world. Our families refer to them as "Dale and Mike's Excellent Adventures." As silly as it sounds, we just love being together--whether we are grocery shopping or on vacation. During the day, we often call each other just to say, "I love you."
I, Dale, have three brothers, Jeff, Dan and Tom. My parents, Jim and Katie, are still married after 44 years. I grew up in New England but went to medical school in Georgia. I came back to New England after my residency to begin practicing medicine. Over time, I started a practice with another woman physician - a practice that now includes four women doctors. We are very proud to have created a work place where we are very flexible and family-friendly. I make sure to leave enough room in my life so that there is plenty of time to be with Mike and our friends and families, as well as time for knitting, cooking, sailing, golfing and reading. I long to spend the rest of my life sharing my love and good humor with our child. My family is very close and large. My brother, Jeff, and his wife, Jen, live practically next door and we see each other at least once a week.
My two youngest brothers have families of their own and although we don't get to see them very often (they live in the South), we have a big family gathering at our house at the beach every summer. Our nephews and nieces think it's hysterical that Grandmommy (my mother) will play whiffle ball and soccer with all of us even at age 65! I also have lots of aunts, uncles and cousins, living everywhere from Maine down to Georgia, who join us frequently for special family occasions. One of my cousins has adopted two children, Eric and Hannah. As a family, we celebrate children and are very comfortable, already, with building our families through adoption. The whole family eagerly awaits the arrival of our child.
Mike will make a great daddy. He has a very mellow disposition and a wonderful, engaging way with children. Even our friends' kids, who are at that young age when they are afraid of everyone except their own mommies and daddies, will go to Mike happily. Sam and Patrick, our nephews from Georgia, were afraid to go sail, and even with their dad's encouragement couldn't quite make it onto the boat. When Mike encouraged them, however, they were willing to try it and couldn't get on the boat fast enough. At our house at the beach, Mike is the one who organizes the games when the kids are there (those years as a camp counselor come in handy!). He can't wait until we have our own children to play with every day.
I, Mike, grew up in the Southwest. I came to New England to go to law school and fell in love with New England, so I decided to stay. I am a lawyer in the health care field who helps doctors, hospitals and nursing homes when they have legal problems. I am the older of two children, and very close to my sister, who is also a doctor. My mom passed away before Dale and I met, but my dad and grandmother (who is 89) still live in the Southwest. We get to see them often and look forward to making my dad a grandfather again. I also have a very close group of friends, most of whom I've known since I was in grade school. Dale has fit in with them in ways I never dreamed of. We have shared many good times with this group - a trip to Jamaica, a special birthday celebration, visits to each other's homes (even though most of them still live out west), the birth of several children, and just a few weeks ago, the long awaited arrival of a child who was adopted by one of our closest friends. Our friends and their children will all be part of our child's extended family, too.
I know Dale will be a wonderful mom--she bakes cookies, sews clothes, knits great sweaters and takes care of me when I am sick. She thinks of great projects to do with our nephews when they come to visit. Last summer they made clay snakes (very cool if you are a 6 year old boy!), went on a whale watch and made a great scrapbook of pictures they took themselves on their vacation. She is warm and funny and loves it when the kids "pounce" on her. Our children will be very lucky to have her as their mommy.
We both feel very lucky to be at the point in our lives where we have control over how much we work and when. We will have some in-home care for our child during times when we are both working. We plan to flex our schedules to maximize the time we spend at home with our child. We don't want to miss any of those important times in our child's life.
We live in a beautiful home in a quaint suburban town. It's in a neighborhood filled with children that reminds us both of the places where we grew up. Our yard is huge and is already the place where the neighborhood kids come to play, and the street is safe enough that the older kids rollerblade there after school. The house has a wonderful family room full of sunlight that spills into the kitchen next to it. There is a playroom in the basement and four bedrooms upstairs - plenty of space for a family.
We also feel very lucky to have a beach house that is about a block away from the water. The house is about an hour from where we live and we travel there almost every weekend, and more in the summer. We love to play and explore along the shore with our nieces and nephews. So far, the tiny sand crabs and flat rocks that we skip along the top of the water have been a hit with Sam and Patrick, as they are sure to be with our own children. Our front yard has been the site of many games of croquet and whiffle ball. We usually celebrate Christmas there where it's quiet and we can just be together as a family.
We have a wonderful, loving, easy relationship with each other. We will be delighted to have a son or daughter to share and enrich our already blessed lives. We have worked hard to have the things we never had growing up and to provide opportunities for our children that our parents could never have afforded. We are very grateful to our parents for helping us become the people we are today and we hope one day our children will be able to say the same things about us.
If you would like to speak with us directly or learn more about us, please call Marla Allisan at Full Circle Adoptions: Toll Free Birthparent Hotline 1-888-45-ADOPT. If chosen to be the parents of your child, please know that we will be more than happy to send regular photographs and letter updates about how your child is doing over the years. We look forward to talking with you. Thank you for considering us.
Dale and Mike
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