Karen & Mark
As we write this letter, we find ourselves trying to think of how you may be feeling. We imagine this may be a very difficult time for you and realize that your decision to consider adoption is one that must require great courage and strength. We want you to know that we feel deeply grateful that you are considering adoption and taking the time to read our letter.
Karen: We'd like to tell you about ourselves. I used to work as an elementary school teacher and have always enjoyed being with children. I'm home full-time now and look forward to continuing to be home full-time while our children are growing up. We both feel fortunate that we can reassure you that your child will be cared for at home.
Mark and I met many years ago, when I was visiting my sister in California. I lived out east at the time. My sister worked with Mark, and she introduced us. We dated several time before I returned east. Mark sent me cards with pictures of fun things we could do if I lived in California. When he sent me a T-shirt from a restaurant where we had shared a particularly romantic dinner, I smiled and knew I wanted to live closer to him. I accepted a position teaching elementary school in California and moved there the summer before school began.
Mark proposed in a very traditional way. It was like something you would see in the old movies. he got down on one knee and asked me if I would marry him. I said, "Yes." Before we were married, we talked about what we wanted our lives to be like. First on our list was that we wanted two children and we wanted to raise them near our family in New England. It was important to us that our children spend lots of time with their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. We also wanted to be able to celebrate holidays and special family times together. So we moved back east to live near our family.
In 1993, we were blessed with the birth of our now five-year-old son Jeremy. As we had hoped, we get together nearly every week for Sunday dinner, and we share all the holidays together. Nana hosts "sleepovers" which will be particularly sweet times to share with a brother or sister. Jeremy is, so far, the only grandchild close-by. Our family looks forward to having another child to hug at the table during our Sunday dinners. The joy they have had with Jeremy will only be multiplied by the joy our second child will bring.
When Jeremy was young, we began to try to have a second baby and were unsuccessful. After two years of infertility treatments, tests revealed that we could not have another child by birth. Yet, we still long to hold a baby and to create the special bond that we have so enjoyed with Jeremy.
We have several friends who have children who came to their families through adoption, and other friends who are, themselves, adopted. When we listened to them talk about their adoption experiences in such positive ways, we knew adoption was the way we wanted to bring a new daughter or son into our family
We will always share our child's adoption story with him or her in very positive ways. There will be no doubt that both our children will know our love is just as great as it is for Jeremy. Your child will be easily welcomed into the hearts and lives of our friends and family.
Mark is one of those dads who gets right down on the floor to play with Jeremy. He's very understanding and knows how to "read" Jeremy's needs. When I'm in the kitchen, I hear Jeremy laughing with his dad and feel so lucky to have them both in my life. According to Jeremy, Mark is his favorite playmate.
Jeremy and I love to do arts and crafts. We love to paint and use different things, like feathers and other "great finds" from our backyard to decorate our projects. We also roller blade together and when I walk our gentle two-year-old dog Madeline, he rides his bike in circles around us as we go down the street. We do a lot of cooking together. Jeremy gets a kick out of all our "oohs" and "ahhs" when we eat the tacos he makes. He thinks he's the number one cook in the family.
Mark: Watching Karen with Jeremy only makes my love for her grow. We so look forward to having a second child join our lives. Since Jeremy was born I've been both a father and a playmate to him. Since he was a baby I've been his horse and his helicopter. I've helped him fly and jump to the ceiling. For years he's been beating me at arm wrestling, running races and hide-and-seek. I've read him bedtime stories nearly every night since he can remember.
Inevitably, the first words he says when he sees me on weekend mornings and workday evenings are "Hey Daddy, want to play?" On snowy days we go sledding or build snowmen or igloos. On warm days we play ball, ride bikes around the neighborhood or explore the woods behind our house. During bad weather we play games, play with action figures, do arts and crafts, build model rockets or watch cartoons. He likes to help me do projects around the house by holding my tools, performing small tasks and offering his "expert" opinion.
In the summer, the main focus of our outdoor activity usually revolves around the playground I built for him. With a little imagination it can become the bat mobile, a fire station, a pirate ship, or a rocket to the moon. Often during this outdoor playtime his neighborhood friends arrive and I soon find myself transformed into a villain with Batman, Robin, and a host of other superheroes pursuing me.
I've taught him important "kid stuff" like how to ride a bike, pack a snowball, throw a baseball, whistle, and snap his fingers. I also try to instill in him important "adult stuff" like responsibility, respect for other people, a love of nature and how to be a good winner or loser. We spend a lot of quality time together, and I'm confident that the special relationship we are building will last a lifetime. I know this will be true for our second child, as well. I'm looking forward to seeing our children create their pretend worlds together and to seeing Jeremy share with his sister or brother stories, and airplanes and other good times together.
We live in a suburban New England town in a wonderful family neighborhood full of children. Our home has four bedrooms and sits on a beautiful acre of land. We have a huge backyard with lots of trees along with a homemade swing set and a built-in sandbox that I made. Our neighborhood is surrounded by a large forest, which we love to hike through and explore.
We have neighborhood block parties twice a year. The kids really have fun. Besides the great food, we have games, music, dancing, face painting and treasure hunts. We celebrate holidays with a neighborhood party with each family taking turns doing the planning and organizing. There area many new babies in our neighborhood, and several more on the way. Our child won't have to go far to find plenty of playmates.
We live about 40 minutes from Boston and Providence, and we often visit these places to enjoy the cultural and social activities. We love visiting the children's zoo, children's theatre, outdoor concerts, sporting events and picnics in both cities.
We hope you have the love and support of others to support you during this important time in your life. We also hope you'll trust us to provide a loving family. As Karen said, your child will grow knowing how much you love him or her and what a special person you are. If you would like, we will be happy to send pictures and photos as your child grows up and would be very happy to receive any information about you that you'd like to share.
Thank you for your consideration. If you would like to learn more about us or speak with us,
Karen and Mark