Gary & Debbie
Dear Birthmother and Birthfather,
We are Debbie and Gary and would like to begin by saying thank you. We know that you are trying to make the best plan for your child. As you consider us as possible adoptive parents for your child, you may be helping us realize the most important dream in our lives.
We have known about and planned for adoption since we met in our mid-teens. During a routine medical exam, Debbie learned that she would not be able to bear children. We have always known that adoption would be the way we would expand our family. Garys brother Rick, and his wife, adopted a boy and a girl, Kyle and Heather now ages 9 and 5. Then two and one half years ago we were blessed with the adoption of our son, Ian. Our families are completely comfortable with adoption, and a new son or daughter would be welcomed and loved unconditionally by all. Our love for one another and for our son has strengthened our resolve to further add to our family and welcome a new child into our midst.
We met during a high school English class in 1983. We were friends at first and then began dating about a year later. We married in 1989 after dating for 5 years. We are lucky to have found each other early in our lives.
Please know that your child will always know what a difficult decision this was for you. We will be proud to share any information about you and your family that you would like us to share with the child. We will also be happy to share photos and letter updates over the course of your childs growing up.
As you consider your choices, we would like to tell you a little more about ourselves:
I, Gary, am 33 years old. I work as the Controller of a large corporate law firm; there are more than 400 attorneys in the firm. I am currently completing the final two courses for my MBA. Ive been an active member of my church since childhood and have served in a variety of roles: Sunday school helper, choir member, chair of the trustees, pastoral relations board, hiring committee, Haitian community relations advisory board and the planning committee. Now I serve solely as treasurer. While this certainly sounds busy, I find it easy to make time for my favorite job of being a father. Please know that there is nothing more important to me than ensuring that your child will be nurtured and loved for his whole life. Having come from a family of four children, I know the beauty of siblings. Our family enjoys a strong connection to our Scottish heritage. The values of family, honor and tradition are strong with us; we are very close not only with each other, but with our parents and grandparents as well. This is but one of the many reasons I am so strongly compelled to add to our family in such a special way.
My name is Debbie and I am 32 years old. Up until a year ago, I was the Assistant Director of a Pre-School. I am fortunate now to be able to commit all of my time to being home with Ian and with the child who will join our family. We enjoy playing with his numerous cousins and friends. We also take swimming lessons and are active in a playgroup at Gymboree. Ian and I enjoy a music playgroup and trips to the park. We love our local childrens museum, and of course McDonalds. My education, background and experience with children have taught me the importance of learning, patience and love in influencing the life of a child. I have been blessed with the opportunity and experiences that make holding and loving children so special. I would like nothing more than to play a very special role in the life of your child. I believe in teaching him or her that they have been blessed with the love of more than one set of parents, and will be guided by the influence we all will play in this very special childs life.
We both are very close to our families. We live in an 8 room (3 bedroom) ranch which weve recently remodeled. Our house has a large fenced in yard where we host summer barbecues and enjoy our backyard pool. Nearly every weekend we get together with family for dinner. We have enjoyed introducing Ian to our Scottish culture; Ian now looks forward to the family tradition of taking an annual visit to the Highland Games with his grandparents.
We think it might be helpful for you to know a little bit about our philosophy of and feelings about parenting: We both truly enjoy children and believe that our love for children has made the role of parent much easier. We are prepared for and look forward to the additional full time day to day responsibility that our next child will bring. We will love your child in the middle of a sleepless night, during visits to the doctor, while changing diapers, as well as when we witness his or her first laughs and steps. We are parents who will provide consistency and love. In addition to being able to love and provide for our child, we know the importance of listening to a child and spending lots of time together. We hope we will get a chance to know more about your dreams for your child and to join in your commitment to provide him or her with a bright future.
We would welcome a chance to talk with you or to meet with you if you would like to meet us. Please call Marla Allisan at Full Circle Adoptions, toll free: (1) 888-452-3678 if you would like to learn more about us or to speak with us directly. We hope to hear from you.
Gary and Debbie