||Full Circle Adoptions
David and Sharon
Birthmother Letter / Profile
Thank you for taking some time to begin to become acquainted with our
family. We would like to express our respect for you and the choices
you are making regarding your baby’s future. It would be a true
honor to welcome your baby into our safe, loving and nurturing home.
After years as a couple, we look forward to completing our family through
adoption. Parenting a child is our ultimate dream.
In over twelve years of being together, we each have felt blessed to
have found our life partner. The tenderness between us shows up in small
ways. For example, I've always been touched that David hand-designs
birthday and special cards for me. And the tenderness shows up in big
ways too, such as the steadfast support we showed each other during
our infertility treatment. We tried for five years to have a child,
but surgeries and treatment all resulted in the conclusion that we will
not be able to bear a child. We have already known adoption in our families
and feel grateful that our families are as comfortable, as we are, with
welcoming a child into our family through adoption.
Sharon has a cousin who made an adoption plan when she was younger;
we have tremendous compassion for her difficult decision. And we each
have cousins who are adopted and our niece joined our family through
a step-parent adoption. Our families are excited for us and feel that
this is a continuation of adoption in our family. As we've begun to
talk more about our plans, we've also learned that some of our adult
friends joined their families through adoption as well. Our child will
grow up in an extended family and friendship circle where adoption is
comfortable and welcomed.
When a child joins our family, our child will be cared for at home.
David works as the head of dispatching for a local police department
and Sharon works a few days a week as an emergency room nurse. Our schedules
are such that one or both of us will always be at home with our child,
and for those infrequent times when we both need to be out, Sharon's
mother will be a happy grandmother.
Sharon's mother is a real estate agent and this proved helpful when
we looked for a house. She found a perfect neighborhood for us; there
are many young families and we live on a "cul-de-sac" so that
traffic doesn't pass through. The children in the neighborhood, who
are old enough to go to school, attend the highly regarded local public
schools. During baseball season, we enjoy watching little league games
they play (and our child isn't even playing !). Every summer, we have
a large block party. Close by is a Community Center with a pool and
other athletic facilities. This all provides a strong sense of community
in an energetic and safe environment.
We met over 15 years ago when Sharon was a college student,working part
time as a police dispatcher. Ironically it was David's father who met
Sharon and introduced her to his son. Just a few months later, we were
so confident in our love that we began to plan our wedding. We exchanged
our vows in front of our friends and family at Sharon's childhood church.
We love doing just about anything with each other; even chores turn
into laughs and fun or tender conversation. When we're apart, frequently
we talk on the phone and tell each other what's going on about our day.
When we have time off together, we still "date" each other.
Maybe it is dinner out or just taking a ride to see the sunset. We both
feel overflowing with love to share with a child.
Every summer, the family gathers at Sharon's parents' cottage in Maine.
We gather from near and far for a four day family festival. Thanksgiving
is our other big holiday. The feast is held at Sharon's parents' house.
There are several gatherings and celebrations in between; often there
is no particular occasion. Saturday breakfast is a tradition; whoever
is around or in town, it's an automatic drop-in family event. Family
always comes first. Any member would drop everything to help the other.
Our love is strong and unconditional.
e were both blessed by strong family support systems and cherished friends.
The backbones of loyalty and respect will be passed on through our parenting.
Communication between us and our child will be open and honest. There
will be nothing our child can't come to us with. We will encourage them
to take pride in all they do. All we can hope is for them to do their
best and be happy with their achievements.
We believe in providing a good education for our child. We were raised
with a strong sense of support from our families for any educational
path we wished to pursue and we will pass that gift on to our child
as well. We have already started saving for college tuition so that
they can feel confident of being able to pursue their dreams.
For fun, we enjoy the outdoors. We enjoy camping, hiking along nature
trails and going wherever Otis bids us to follow. We love time with
our friends. Spontaneous barbeques on our deck, taking in movies, and
helping with local health related charities gives us both pleasure and
satisfaction. Almost two years ago, we welcomed Otis, a Terrier/Labrador
puppy into our lives. He's a confident and loving puppy who is gentle
around kids and well-loved by the neighborhood children.
David: Even to this day, I remember when Sharon and I met. Her smile
gave me such a feeling of happiness and joy that I knew I wanted to
be with her. Sharon has such an infectious laugh and smile that everyone
in a room always takes notice. I would go to the ends of the earth to
make Sharon happy and I know she would do no less.
As a nurse, Sharon has such a caring touch and an intuitive understanding
of people's feelings. I am without doubt that this ability will carry
over into motherhood. She will be able to not only nurture but also
be able creatively and lovingly help the child know about the best way
to approach things and to learn "right and wrong". I am confident
that her"mother's touch" will be complimented by our team
approach in giving our child the love and support she or he will need
to grow into a strong and loving adult.
Sharon: David has such a comforting presence. He has always known when
I need to be held and made to feel safe. On the other hand, when times
get tough,he can always make me laugh. Not only is he my husband but
he is my best friend. Nothing that happens in my life is real until
I share it with David. Our baby will have a lifetime of exciting childhood
memories with their father. Somehow he manages to play hard yet create
safe and clear boundaries so children feel confident that they're cared
for. He will be a strong provider and protector.
The only thing missing from our home is the patter of little feet.
We look forward to sharing every developmental milestone with our child.
There is no smell sweeter than a freshly bathed baby. I look forward
to rocking our baby to sleep in David's grandmother's rocking chair.
It is already in the nursery. We've already begun collecting books to
read to our baby at bed time. Everywhere we have gone since beginning
the adoption journey, we dream of bringing our baby along. Family celebrations
will be even richer with our child. Our nieces and nephews are eager
to play with their new cousin. We thank you for considering us as parents,
for this is our most important dream.
We'd like you to feel confident in the years ahead, that adoption was
the right choice for you and your child. Your child will know how much
you love him or her and will be raised to understand adoption as a courageous
and selfless choice. Your child will grow up knowing how much everyone
loved him or her and that his or her bright future was carefully planned,
with love, by you. We will provide photo/letter updates to you, directly,
or to the agency (to hold for you), whichever you prefer, all the years
of your child's growing up. We are happy to stay in touch with you so
that you can know your son or daughter is growing up happy and well-loved.
We'd welcome a chance to talk with you and meet you if you'd like. Please
feel free to call Full Circle at 1-888-452-3678 if you'd like to learn
more about us or talk with us. We hope to hear from you.
Our best wishes to you,
Sharon and David