As we embark on this journey into adoption, we know that we will share some incredible things with our child's birthmother. In addition to the most important common bond, our child, we'll have another experience in common: the decision to pursue adoption. We are grateful to you for giving your child the gift of life, and for
When faced with the reality of infertility, we cried together for our loss. Knowing that we could not add to our family ourselves, we began our adoption quest. In a way, we both feel like any expectant couple waiting on their child's arrival: anxious, hopeful and ready to share our love. We pray each night for a birthmother who will entrust us with the parenting of her child. As you read about us, imagine your child walking hand-in-hand along the beach, between us, his or her adoptive parents, knowing that the child is happy and healthy. As you get to know us through our words and photos, we hope you can imagine how happy you have made us just by taking the time to read this letter.
We're delighted to be able to tell you a bit about ourselves. We have known each other for nearly ten years, having met through our dear friends, Vance and John. From the moment we met, we have always been able to be honest with each other, and have a great time together. Our ability to communicate with one another has forged a strong bond, bringing us closer. We really enjoy spending time with each other, whether it's working in the yard, walking in the woods, or going out for dinner and a movie. We love being married, and believe that there are four keys to a good union: (1) remember the power of prayer, (2) rely on the love and strength of family and friends, (3) resolve any disagreements before saying goodnight to each other, and (4) don't forget the importance of a good sense of humor.
We know that families are made by the parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and neighbors who surround, welcome, love and support new arrivals, as well as each other. Our extended family supports our decision to adopt, offering their time, experience with parenting and love to us and our child. This idea of extended family is very important to both of us; we are both from very close families. Frank is one of seven kids, the oldest son; Cindy is one of four kids and is the eldest child.
I'm (Frank) 35 and of Italian-American heritage. I received my Bachelors degree in Studio Art in 1985, and have put that knowledge and skill to use in the graphic design field and as a children's book author and illustrator. Several of my books have been published to date with more on the way. I'm fortunate to have a job that allows me to work from my home office, which will enable me to spend at least two or three days a week with our child. Cindy and I both believe that spending time with our child is the most important thing we can do, especially in the first few years.
I'm (Cindy) 36, and of English-Scottish-Canadian-German-Latvian-Russian heritage. I received my Bachelors degree in American Studies in 1985, and my Masters in Business Administration (MBA) in 1994. Since 1986, I've been in the elder care field; I'm currently the director of an Assisted Living community near home. Frank and I like to say that we cover the entire spectrum of life with our careers; he gets to work with children and I get to work with seniors. We both appreciate each other's careers, helping and supporting each
I (Cindy) will take maternity leave and plan to return to work part-time. Frank and I plan on sharing all child care responsibilities. His mother also plans on helping us.
We live in an old New England town, in a wonderfully "kid-friendly" neighborhood on a cul-de-sac with kids aged 1 through 9 all around. Our neighbors are aware of our plans to adopt and look forward to welcoming our child home. We love our home, and have a great yard that's ready to kick soccer balls, roll in the grass, play catch or explore in the half-acre of woods behind our house.
Both of our parents live within 40 minutes of our home. They are very excited about our decision to adopt and support us in every way imaginable. Throughout our lives our parents have been there for us, a characteristic we will share with our children.
We have very close bonds with our siblings. I (Frank) have five sisters and a brother, who is special needs. I'm the godfather of one of my sister's children, Alyssa (8). Alyssa has two sisters, Madelynn (Maddie) (4) and Laura (2). I have a special relationship with my brother and we share a common activity together, playing games on his computer. All of my siblings can't wait to welcome our child into the family. Cindy enjoys a close relationship with all my sisters and she has developed a special relationship with my brother: they even share a secret handshake!
I (Cindy) have two sisters: one who has a stepson, Sean (8), and the other who is pregnant for the first time and will deliver in May; and a brother, who is getting married this June. It's a very exciting time for my family. I spend time with my family as often as I can. Frank joins me when his schedule allows and he has a wonderful relationship with them.
My (Frank's) parents own a second home located on a beach where my siblings and I spent our summers. Summering on the shore gave me an appreciation for nature and a love for the ocean. When I was a teen I had my own wooden row boat that I would spend hours in. Each day I would check my lobster traps, go fishing, swimming and explore tidal pools. I loved sitting on the beach sand, warmed by the sun. I look forward to the day when I can share my experiences with my children.
I (Cindy) spent many summer vacations visiting locales up and down the East coast with my family. We would take our uncle's camper and hit the road for weeks at a time. My travels introduced me to nature, and gave me an appreciation for mountains, lakes and being with my family. While attending college, I spent a term in Mystic CT, while participating in the Williams Mystic program. I spent two weeks at sea during the program; I grew to love the ocean for its power, mystery and beauty. I can't wait to share my life experiences with my children.
Together we dream of the day when we can explore nature with our children, teaching them how to respect and enjoy the world around them.
We are an extremely close couple; we share our concerns, desires and dreams with each other every day. We never go to bed angry. Our open communication style gives us the opportunity to share in each others emotions. We can hardly wait for the day when we can share ourselves with our children, teaching, growing and learning together. We can't wait to be parents!
We welcome the opportunity to meet with you if you desire. We also plan on making information about the child available to you or your adoption professional using photos and letter-updates in the years to come. If you would like to learn more about us or speak with us directly, please call Susan or Marla toll-free at 1-888-452-3678 (1-888-45-ADOPT). We hope to hear from you.
We know that whatever you decide will be best for you and your child. Thank you again for considering us for your child's adoptive parents.
With deep respect,
Cindy & Frank