Alicia and John
Alicia and John
As we write this letter, we realize that your decision to search for
adoptive parents must be difficult. It is a parent who cares deeply
about the welfare of her child who would take the steps that you are
taking now. With this in mind, let us introduce ourselves to you and
share with you our desire to love and cherish a child who might join
John and I kept returning to the idea of adoption. We both are close to friends and families who have adopted, but don't think of them as adoptive families. They are simply "families." To the children of John's sister and oldest brother as well, he is "Uncle John." The three boys who were adopted by my aunt and uncle are my cousins, and always will be, because what makes us family is our love for each other. As you can imagine, we would all feel a great deal of love for this new baby. I get a big smile each time I think about it!
Our marriage is a blessing to me because John makes our lives so wonderful. Each day we share the responsibilities of caring for our son, our home, and each other. It may seem a bit corny, but John is SO easygoing that we never argue! I have never felt so completely at ease with anyone in my whole life. We actually TALK about whatever we need to before it becomes an issue. Our son lives with this, and we believe that he and our next child will learn how to communicate clearly with others because of the way John and I respect each other. Being honest about our feelings is important to us, and in our explanations of the adoption process, we would be certain that your child knows how very much you care about him or her. To me, what you are doing is a selfless act of giving and I hope that you will choose us as the lucky recipients of your gift.
Let me share a snapshot of our life. One of my favorite things to
do is to watch John and Colby outside together when they don't know
I'm looking. Last summer, I laughed to see John mowing the front lawn
with Colby following behind with a toy lawnmower. John has a way of
making our son laugh, whether playing hide and seek (really hamming
it up as he pretends to search ridiculous places), or throwing a ball
over the roof of our house so that Colby can watch as it falls into
the back yard. We are all constantly singing or humming in this house,
but John can take any song and make it about our son. Soon, Colby is
absentmindedly singing the song as he plays with Legos or trucks. I
look forward to sharing music and games with the second child we are
blessed to love, as well.
As a kindergarten teacher Alicia is very affectionate with her young
students, many of whom stop by her classroom regularly throughout their
remaining elementary years, often perhaps to share some exciting news,
but mostly, I think, because they miss coming to her class every day.
The sincere expressions of gratitude she receives at the end of every
school year from the parents of her students are a good indication that
she has taught these children good things and loved them as well. She
is a wonderful teacher, wife and mother.
Becoming a father to our son Colby has made me a much more complete person and has been so much fun as well! We've played in the sand at Disney's Castaway Cay and we've ridden the rides at Storyland and Santa's Village. But I think what we enjoy the most are the simpler, everyday activities, long walks with the dogs, riding up on Daddy's shoulders, trips to the playground to crawl through the caterpillar, and autumn afternoons leaping in leaf piles. Yesterday, we finished our first T-ball season and recently the training wheels have come off the bicycle.
To run my hands through Colby's curls and to see his bright eyes peering up at me in the morning are two of life's simple pleasures for me now. These opportunities to love and teach a child are ones I'll always treasure and appreciate. To be sure, the process of raising a child is a huge responsibility. But at this point in my life, should I be privileged enough to become a father once again, please know that I will endeavor faithfully to be as good a daddy to your little baby as I am to Colby.
A bit about ourselves: We live in a very mellow town that is known for it's good school system. That is important to us, as John and I are both teachers. In spite of this, we are not overbearing "teacher-parents!" While we encourage Colby to do well in school, we also want him to do all the other important things of childhood: running after bubbles, playing with the hose, and watching worms wiggle.
Both of us have taught school for more than 12 years - John in high school and Alicia in elementary school. We sincerely love what we do, and put our hearts into it. However, if we are chosen to parent your child, we plan to have Alicia take one full year off from her teaching position. Thereafter, she would return to teaching kindergarten on a half-time basis.
As you can imagine, having vacations together is a wonderful asset
for our family. During those times of rest, we like to get away for
a little while or just take fun day trips where we can find a playground,
park, or other place of interest to spend some time. At other times,
we are homebodies, working in the yard or on some aspect of our home.
This is where we spend most of our down time and we love it.
We want to end this letter as we began it, acknowledging what a difficult decision this must be for you. If you are open to talking by phone or meeting, we would be delighted to have a chance to do so. If you choose us to parent your child, we will always speak lovingly of you. We'll look forward to staying in touch with you over the years. We will be happy to send you photos and letter updates over all the years of her or his childhood.
Our lives are so much more than anything we can put to words. We hope that we've given you a glimpse of our life to let you know how lovingly we would raise your beautiful baby. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. If you'd like to speak with us or meet us, please call 1-888-452-3678. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter.
Alicia and John
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