Valerie and Tom
Even though we haven't met, we would like you to know how much we respect your wish to make the best decision for your child. We can imagine that this is probably a very difficult time for you. We hope that, in some small way, our letter reassures you that we would be honored to be chosen as the adoptive parents of your child. Thank you for reading our letter.
We have struggled with infertility for many years. After many infertility treatments, we were graced with a wonderful blessing, our son Justin. We have not been able to bear a second child and cannot wait to be parents again. As we enlarge our family, we are so grateful for the possibility of adoption. During the years of infertility procedures, we often talked about adoption and we know in our hearts that we could easily love a child who joins our family through adoption.
We would love to be Mom and Dad to a second child, to enjoy those special times as a baby grows and develops. Justin has shown, through his relationships with other children, that he would love to be a big brother. Justin is very friendly and always wants to hug and kiss the babies at his daycare. He also looks forward to visiting our friends who have small babies.
We both are fortunate to have flexible work schedules that allow us to spend a great deal of time together as a family. I, Tom, am a Telecommunications Manager. Valerie is a part-time Human Resources Consultant and this also gives her a lot of time at home. When we adopt, Valerie will stay home full-time with both children.
Our relationship has a long and loving history. We were high school sweethearts and dated all through college. We socialized with a close-knit group of friends in college and we are still close with many of them, though they are scattered across the country now. Once we graduated from college, we were married in Valerie's family church. We've been married over 15 years now and have been together for 22 years. We consider ourselves lucky to have found our life's love early in our lives and cherish each day together.
Valerie: I was first attracted to Tom because of his kind nature and wonderful laugh. I love his sense of humor, his easy ability to have fun, and for the little things such as taking the time for a quiet walk. Tom is a romantic at heart and often brings me flowers on my birthday and our anniversary, but he also brings them for no particular reason at all. When I first met Tom, I felt as though I had known him forever. I've always had this sense and truly believe that I have found my soul mate. As the years have passed, my love for him has only grown. It's not just the romantic moments that are meaningful. I feel comforted when I watch Tom being Mr. Handyman around the house and everyone in the family knows they can count on him for similar help as well.
The same qualities that attracted me to Tom those many years ago have made him a caring and devoted father to our son Justin. Tom and Justin have fun rolling on the floor in the family room and playing hide and seek together. Some of their favorite outdoor activities include biking, playing in the woods behind the house, and digging worms. I know that Tom will be a wonderful father to our next child as well. I feel blessed to live life with him and to have the joy of being parents together.
Tom: I fell in love with Val the moment we met. She had a charming smile and beautiful eyes. We dated for seven years while we finished college and then married. Even though we have been together as a couple for 22 years, I feel that I have known her all my life. I cannot imagine my life without her. Val is incredibly artistic; she enjoys decorating the house and helping her friends and family with their decorating projects. She is amazingly intuitive and comes up with wonderful ideas that I can't envision, but when they are completed look great. She also creates beautiful gift baskets for holidays and special occasions. Everyone tells her she should go into business.
Val is very devoted to her family and close friends. She is very perceptive and always seems to know what to do and how to help. Val and Justin have a special relationship; you can see it in how they play and interact together. Justin always wants Val to read him stories and help him design pictures with his crayons. Bath time is a wild and crazy event when Justin pretends to swim the English Channel!
We look forward to sharing our day-to-day family activities. Justin and we love building with Legos. During the summer, we have fun getting dirty as we plant flowers, taking long walks and visiting the neighborhood kids. We look forward to the New England winters and the snow that it brings. We love to sled, make angels in the snow and let snow flakes melt on our face. We cannot wait to share these joys with the child we are blessed to adopt.
We have a close relationship with both of our families who live nearby. We look forward to the holidays and spending time with our extended family. Justin especially likes the local Christmas light displays. At Easter time we wake up early and before going to church, Justin tries to find his Easter basket that Mom and Dad hid the night before. This is a tradition that Val's mother started and once Justin is old enough he'll have to find the basket based on clues in a poem. On Halloween, we look forward to marching in the town costume parade and making lots of new friends in the community.
Our family includes many nieces and nephews of different ages and we feel fortunate to see them often. We are also very close with Val's sister Debbie and her husband Paul. Their daughter Samantha, who is now seven years old, has a special place in her heart for Justin and she looks forward to having another cousin to play with. Our parents are very involved with all the grandchildren and very excited about an addition to our family.
Both of our parents have homes on the ocean and we spend many relaxing summer days at the beach. We love building sandcastles and taking long walks along the water's edge while looking for special treasures washed up with the waves. Tom grew up around the water loves to reminisce about the days his Dad and two brothers would go on great fishing adventures. We look forward to sharing with our children the commitment and tenderness that our parents shared with us. We cannot wait to spend time together as a family and create our own treasured memories together.
We enjoy traveling and outdoor activities. In 1990, we traveled to Madeira, Portugal, where Tom's parents were born. We spent two weeks touring and meeting the family. It was a wonderful experience for both of us. We also enjoy riding our bikes and skiing.
Our house is located in a lovely New England suburb. There is a climbing set and a wonderful backyard to run around in. We dug flowerbeds so Val could start the "dream flower garden" she has always wished for.
We want you to be reassured that we will communicate with you over the years, if this is your wish. We'll gladly send photos and letter updates to the agency for you or send them to you directly. We would welcome a chance to learn more about what would be meaningful to you. We hope this letter conveys the love that our family has to offer to you and your child. If you choose us to be the parents of your child, we promise to provide the safe, fun, nurturing home that you envision for your child. If you would like to learn more about us or to speak with us directly please call Marla Allisan toll free at 1-888-452-3678.
We wish you the very best.
Valerie and Tom