Carla and Paul
We are Paul and Carla, and we are hoping to build our family through the gift of adoption. We are reaching out to you in what may be one of the most difficult times of your life. We hope that learning about us may offer you some reassurance that you can find a family you can feel confident will love and care for your child in a way that fulfills your dreams. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter.
We long to be parents, and dream of the day when we finally hold a child in our arms. Our doctors have told us, after several failed pregnancies, that this is not likely to occur by physically bearing a child. We are very grateful to be able to participate in adoption so that we can welcome a child into our home and hearts. Please know that if you chose us as your child's adoptive family, we will cherish and nurture your child all the days of our lives. Nothing will make us happier than to provide a stable and loving home for your child.
We met in one of the best ways possible, doing something that we both love. We were playing in a recreational volleyball league on different teams. I, Carla, noticed Paul quite awhile before we actually connected and was attracted by his easy, warm smile and hilarious comments to his teammates. I, Paul, found Carla to be warm and easy-going, and I looked forward to talking with her even before we began dating. Typically, teams would socialize once the evenings’ play was over, and before long, we began dating. We found that we have many common interests, as well as complementary senses of humor. We also have many of the same plans and goals, most especially that of building a happy family. We soon realized that we were true companions, and that we wanted to be together. We married after several years of much laughter and warmth, and a growing commitment to one another. We love, respect and delight in each other every day.
I, Carla, am currently a marketing manager at a large newspaper. I’ve been in the newspaper industry since I completed my graduate degree. I'll become a fulltime mom when our child arrives, and enthusiastically look forward to exchanging computer databases and sales presentations for storybooks and visits to the cows at the local farm.
I, Paul, am a computer programmer and have worked from home for about 10 years. I enjoy making my own schedule and choosing projects that interest me. I love cooking and trying new recipes, and having a home-cooked meal ready for Carla when she gets home from work. I am truly fortunate that the flexibility of my work will allow me to spend so much time with Carla and our child.
We own a beautiful home with lots of big windows to let in the sunshine and plenty of room for a child to grow. We live in a small town about 15 miles from Boston. Our street is tree-lined, safe and quiet. The town has excellent schools and recreation facilities, one of the primary reasons we chose it when looking for a home. We are within easy driving distance of most of our relatives, and we see them often.
I, Paul, am the ninth of ten siblings, all but one of who live in the area, as do my parents. I also have 20 nieces and nephews ranging in age from 19 to 1, so we’ve got lots of local family around to enjoy. I worked in California for several years after graduating from college, but returned east to be close to my family, whom I missed very much. I have a warm and happy relationship with my family, and I really wanted to be near them while we raise our children. My parents own a small beach house south of the city, right next to my aunt’s home, so we have a kind of family "compound" for summer activities. My aunt's house has been in the family for generations, and it is where I and my brothers and sisters spent many happy vacations. When everyone meets there now for a full family gathering, it is really wonderful.
I, Carla, am the oldest of four children. Most of my family lives in Connecticut. We maintain our relationships with lively and frequent phone conversations between visits that occur several times a year. My father passed away about 10 years ago. I have a warm, supportive relationship with my mom, who retired early. She is thrilled that she has that flexibility so that she can plan long visits to cuddle and indulge her newest grandchild when he or she arrives. My relationship with my younger sister Mickie is very special: she is a friend as much as she is a sibling. My brother Thom is a happy free spirit, living most of the year in Asia, and coming home to the U.S. periodically to conduct his import business. He writes fascinating letters and tells the most unique stories about his travels and adventures. I have an adult niece and an adult nephew (Keisha, age 24 and Daniel, age 19), as well as one each of elementary school age (Stefanie, age 10 and Timothy, age 8), all of whom we have affectionate and playful relationships with. Since there hasn’t been a new baby on my side of the family in many years, my whole family is very excited about welcoming our child.
We have both been very involved with all of our nieces and nephews throughout the years, babysitting, taking them on outings and attending significant events in their lives. We are particularly close to Paul’s brother Bob’s three little girls, whom we see almost every weekend. Paul enjoys a special relationship with 3-year-old Kelly, who is his goddaughter. She sits by the window and calls his name when we pull into the driveway, already giggling because she knows she’s in for some fun. He never fails to delight her with his silly antics and his energy: he can chase her around the yard and play little-kid games even longer than she can. Carla spends a lot of time cuddling and playing with Kelly’s younger twin sisters, Katie and Erica, marveling at how different they are from one another and how much they’ve changed since our visit the week before.
We look forward to repeating the happy experiences we have had with these wonderful children with our own child. Building snowmen in the winter, going pumpkin picking in the fall, volleyball gatherings with friends and their families in the summer, snuggling before bedtime to read favorite stories, sharing backyard barbeques and holiday celebrations with our extended families… all of these are joys that we can't wait to share with a beloved child.
Our interests are varied, ranging from playing with our very affectionate and demanding cat, Domino (who is black & white, of course!), to cooking and dining out, to watching TV quiz shows together, to visiting friends and family. We’re both avid readers, an activity that we often do snuggled up together in front of our fireplace or relaxing on the patio. It’s a wonderful interest to share as a couple, since it allows us to "be alone together" in such a special way. Volleyball has continued to be an influence in our lives, providing us with many close friends who are part of the "community" of local players.
Connection with others, a sense of community, means a lot to us. Every Christmas season, we hold a large holiday open house, attendance at which is becoming a tradition for some of our friends: they ask us months ahead of time if we’ve set a date yet so that they can save it! We invite everyone we know: friends, family, teammates, neighbors, folks from work. Our guests help us trim our tree, many visitors drop by to share holiday greetings, and lots of kids sing along with the holiday songs and videos that play in the background. It’s a lot of work to arrange during an especially busy time of the year, but we can’t imagine not doing it. We truly enjoy the opportunity to entertain and bring together people from all corners of our lives and in some small way to let them know how important they are to us.
We also make it a point to stay current with friends from our past: at least once a year we vacation with a large group of Paul’s friends from college. At New Year’s or the 4th of July (sometimes both), friends from all over the country meet at some fun location to spend a week together relaxing, sightseeing, cooking, laughing and playing bridge. We dream of the day when our child will add to the joyful playtimes along with the children of our dear friends.
I (Carla) know that Paul will be a special kind of father. He is one of the most patient and inventive people I have ever known. He can turn any activity into a game for our nieces, and can wait out their "crankies" and make them smile again. Children warm up to him quickly, maybe sensing that he’s still a kid at heart himself. He understands himself well, and trusts his feelings. He values education and interesting work, but he also knows how to relax and have fun. His upbringing in such a large family has taught him the value of loyalty, compromise, and having a strong support system. Most of all, he is warm, affectionate, responsible and always, always fair. I know that these are qualities that he will strive to share with our child.
I (Paul) know that Carla will be a wonderful mother. She often talks about how she looks forward to having our child play with all of his or her cousins. When we spend time with our young nieces, she has fun with them when they're being adorable and cute, and is calm and patient with them when they're not being adorable. She is one of the most even-tempered people I know. She especially loves to read to them - she loves to read and it will be a high priority to share that love of reading with our child.
Should you chose us as your child’s adoptive family, we would offer the day-to-day love and encouragement that every child needs. Your child will have two parents who will always be there and will love him or her as much as we do each other. We believe that children thrive in an environment where there is flexibility, trust, honesty and comfort, and also clear limits and boundaries and a sense of responsibility and compassion. We look forward to guiding the development of these qualities in our child. Education is very important to us, and we would provide the resources for college if that is what our child chooses.
We understand that this is not an easy decision for you. We would be happy to send you regular photos and letter updates as your child grows up, so that you can see for yourself the life your love and concern has provided for your child. Your child will always know that your decision was made with strength and devotion. If chosen to be the parents of your child, we will be grateful to you every day of our lives.
Thank you for your consideration. If you would like to learn more about us or
speak with us,
Carla & Paul